Let's stop judging already

Over the past few weeks, I've had about as much as I can take of people judging others. There really is no need for it. Women in general seem to get a lot of judgment directed at them, mothers in particular. Which makes no sense. I think, and I could be wrong, that women feel especially acutely, the opinions and judgments of others and women do a lot of judging of other women. I know many women who have felt judged by others for the decisions they made - decisions they felt were the best for themselves, their families, and their unique circumstances.

Remember the Times article about the "mommy wars" that came out a few weeks ago? A three year old being breastfed by his mother? The flood gates opened on both sides, not helped at all by the title "Are You Mom Enough?" Yikes! Only real  moms are going to breastfeed their children till they are 3? Completely dismissing women who decide not to breastfeed at all, or for a year or 2. They are not mom enough. Then, we have the backlash against nursing mothers, where people feel entitled  to pass judgment on how long a woman has been breastfeeding and taking public votes on when they've been doing it long enough. Because that is what moms need - silent or explicit judgments about one of the hardest things in the world - caring for a helpless tiny person.

So let's just stop already. While I'm not a mother, I'm going to try to follow these rules, which I found here:

And everyone should read this blog post too. Its awesome!